Episode 260: Monica DiCristina

I am so very happy to welcome my friend, Monica DiCristina, to the show today. Monica is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta where she lives with her husband and three kids. Monica has such a desire to help guide others in their process of becoming who they were meant to be. She is the host of one of my new favorite podcasts called Still Becoming. You definitely want to hit subscribe to that show along with following her on Instagram—she always shares such helpful content there.

Today, we dive into the topic of boundaries. This is one of those episodes where I pretend to be asking all these questions for a friend but it’s really because I need all the help in setting boundaries. We talk about what they are and what they might look like in everyday life. We also dive into setting boundaries with two important relationships: our children and our in-laws.

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Links mentioned:

• Sarah’s appearance on her Monica’s podcast, Still Becoming

• Boundaries by Henry Cloud

• Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud

Survival Kit:

• home shows on Netflix - Extreme Homes

• reading short things

• early to bed

Takeaways:

• Boundaries are the separation between you and someone else. Where my feelings, responsibility ends and yours begins.

• Boundaries are really about you. You can only set our own boundaries. They are for you and no one else.

• Boundaries are saying what’s okay and what’s not okay. Knowing yourself is so key to setting boundaries.

• Resentment is a sign that we’ve given past our limits.

• The kindest people have the best boundaries.

• Allow people to be disappointed and disappointed in you. That doesn’t make you a bad person.

• Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.

• What is okay and what is not okay.

• Ask: What do I feel? What do I need? And then, set internal boundaries.

Discussion Questions:

• When you hear the word boundaries, what do you feel?

• What do you think boundaries are and are not?

• What do boundaries feel like to you?

• What areas of life (or relationships) do you feel like could use some boundaries?

• Monica mentioned that we often feel angry or resentful as an indicator that we need a boundary. Based on that, is there is person that you need to consider setting a boundaries around?

• What internal boundaries would be helpful?

• What baby boundary can you set?

• What is one thing you can do this week based on this conversation?

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Connect with Monica:  Website // Instagram // Facebook // Podcast

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